Individual and personal prospects should not be brought up when we discuss something. They should be reserved for personal and private sessions. Don’t loose the topic by bringing your personal issues. What we discuss has to do with the entire thing.
Define the problem and issue clearly to ensure that everyone has the same understanding of what is beeing discussed. Every issue is inspected from the physical and the spiritual point of view.
Only one person speaks at a time. Everyone else should be listening in a non-judgmental way to what the speaker is saying. We use some object (such as a stone or stick), which the person who is speaking holds and then passes to the next person who has indicated a desire to speak. Taken notes during the discussion, to know what you want to say when you speak.
Everybody has the opportunity to speak at least once before anybody speaks twice.
All comments should be addressed directly to the question or issue, not on comments that another participant has made.
If you percieve that what someone says is worthless for you, listen with your heart.
After all participants contibuted their ideas, the facilitator tries to synthesize a course of action which everyone agrees from the ideas of the group.
Anyone who feels that an important point has not been taken into consideration and cannot give consent to this synthesis should be given the chance to speak again. And will be asked to picture a new synthesis including the point.
No comments which put down others or oneself are allowed neither Self-put downs such comments as, “I don’t think anyone will agree with me, but…” or “I’m not very good at…”
If someone cannot give consent, she or he will be asked if it is an insurmountable objection and is given a last chance to express this point of view. A majority vote is used as a last resort if complete consensus can’t be reached.
We respect the wisdom of the council. We share our ideas, but we don’t insist in our idea to prevail. Once an idea is shared, we let go of it. We don’t identify ourselfs with an idea neither we own an idea.
All decisions will be written down. That will be the reference if any questions come up later.
When electing leaders, discuss the qualities of good leaders, and particularly those qualities needed in collective leadership for this particular time, situation and mission. Do not discuss individual names – only the qualities a leader should have and our collective leadership responsibilities.
Reflect (think deeply) about the qualities needed in those chosen for leaders in the situation. Then think about who best combines those qualities from among the circle and community; consider everyone.
Before a decision is made the council tries to make sure that enough information is gathered, before making a decision. Decision will be not made while gathering information.
Without the least trace of prejudice and with an open and loving heart, ask the „Creator“ (or however we designate a higher power or source of inspiration) to guide you to make the best choice.
Once a council has decided something in unity, respect demands that no one speaks secretly against what has been decided. If the council has made an error, that error will become apparent to everyone in its own time. A decision of the collective is a decision of everyone. When decisions are made it will get put in action with the total wholehearted support of the entire collective even if someone doesn’t fully agree.
Everyone in the community must give their wholehearted and unreserved support to the chosen leaders. No one should speak secretly against those elected. Rather, everyone should now rally behind the leaders, pray for them, share their best ideas and insights with them and cooperate to ensure the success of everyone.
As leader of the group, he sees himself as a servant of the group.
He is committed to developing the well-being of the community. He experiences and expresses a deep feeling of care, love and a sense of collective responsibility.
He is open to their continuous learning and development and appreciates the feedback that is given to him. He does not take criticism and feedack personally and tries to integrate new information for the benefit of the community.
It is inclusive, generative, transformative and inspiring in the way it relates, communicates and invites our collective responsibility to bring this vision to life for the good of the whole.
He knows where he comes from, where he is going and who he is traveling with.
He is morally strong - leads a good moral life that is a model for our future generations. Particular attention to addiction issues, unhealthy relationships, full transparency, accountability and honesty in all dimensions of their lives, including money, are encouraged and supported.
He believes in people's ability to heal and develop, and shows this belief in the way he treats and works with people.
He is concerned with their own development and is a relatively healthy person.
He has a good mind and understands the healing and development process as well as the problems that people face.
He has shown dedication to the peaceful, respectful development process, which is characterized by consistent work and a good attitude for a long time.
He shows love, care and respect for the Creator, our Mother Earth, our human family and our future seven generations.
He works well with others.
He brings forth and maintains the spirit of forgiveness, unity, reciprocity and harmony with all and for the good of the whole.